Feelings of Helplessness
By Hollie
Over the weekend my daughter Peyton was up all night crying and could not sleep. After several attempts of trying to get her back into her toddler bed, I realized that there might be something else wrong other than just restless sleeping. Throughout her crying she would stop and say “Ouchy”. I went through the process of asking her if it was her tummy, ears, mouth etc. Normally I would get an answer, but this time all I got was more crying. I continued to try and comfort her and I noticed that she was beginning to get warm. I took her temperature and found that she was running a fever. After giving her some Tylenol, she finally slept for a couple of hours. She then woke up and continued where she left of… more crying. In fact the fever had went up. As a mother, I could not help but feel helpless about not being able to take away the pain for my child (especially since I did not know what was wrong). I continued to pray for her that the pain would subside and it would not be anything serious as I waited for the doctor’s office to open. With it being a Saturday, I could not get her in until noon. After a full night and morning of crying, the doctor informed me that she had an ear infection. Even though she has already had two this year, this by far was the worse. He told me that it is not uncommon for a child to get five infections in each ear. Yikes! On the way home I picked up her medicine and later that day she was back to her normal self. The pain had subsided and it was not anything serious! My prayers had been answered! It is comforting to know that through my feelings of helplessness, there is someone I can talk to in prayer that has the power to heal!
Hi Hollie,
!!! I’m so glad Payton’s feeling better and just as you stated, It’s nice to know when you’re feeling helpless, there’s alway GOD to turn too.
Posted 1 year, 7 months agoI cannot say that I have been through the ear infection situation. But, my cousin does have 3 little girls and the youngest is 3. She was having similar problems, but more on a regular basis. The Dr. suggested to her that they have tubes put in her ears so it wouldn’t cause damage to her ear drums. If I’m not mistaken, I think she was only 1 1/2 when she had the tubes put in. It did her wonders. She didn’t have problems for a very long time. Latetly her mom noticed some fluid leacking from her ears so she took her in and they realized that the tubes were falling out. Not all children have to have tubes because they’ve had a few ear infections, but at least you can keep an eye out and if it continues, maybe you can ask for your Dr.’s opinion. I know too, It’s so common for young children, if they’ve had a cold to get an ear infection from the drainage. It is so hard when they’re too young to tell you where they hurt
I really have enjoyed many of the stories on the wesite, but never get a chance to respond. A lot of them I can relate to. My kid’s are now 15, 11 and one soon to be 10. So I’ve been through most of what you’re going through now. Having two children close together was so much fun to me but also very exhausting. At first I was overwhelmed, but after the first 12 weeks or so, we were all on a schedule. Dylan was 4 when I had Erika and Erika was 16 months when I had Dustin. I found by keeping them on a structered schedule, it helped. I would put them down for naps at the same time, do feedings at the same time and then try to clean and do my Bible studies in between (if I was lucky, I’d get a quick shower). I found it was hard because I had very little ME time. You will see that it just goes by so fast! I prayed and prayed for God to help me get the rest I needed to be able to enjoy every moment with them. My husband worked full time and more so I could be at home with my children and it all worked out! To this day, they still live a pretty structered life and it makes me feel so good to look at them on a daily basis and see all of thier progress and motivation for life. Remember, it helps if you can just find a little time for yourself. Even if it’s a hot bath, shopping with your girlfriends or just sitting down and reading. Just something to refresh your spirit!
I’m so happy for you and your family!
Thanks for your response Debbie! I will definitely ask the doctor what he thinks about the tubes in the ears. Hopefully this will be the last time and I will not even have to consider that. It is nice to hear that someone else was busy with their kids. I know that all parents (moms) go through it, but sometimes I wonder if it is just me and and the fact that I try to do too much within a day. I definitely do need to schedule more me time. It is hard to fit into the daily routine, especially with the house cleaning and nap time (that I also take). I just do not want to short change my kids while I am home and not spend time with them. I guess I will have to get my husband to free up some of his time so I can find my own.
Posted 1 year, 7 months agoI too have found that a schedule (structure) works the best, maybe the teacher in me. I think that this will become a bit easier when Carsen gets a little older. I give you a lot of credit raising the three children, especially with the last two close in age. I often thought that I would like more, but know that two is a good number, and lets face it, I am not getting any younger. Right now I am enjoying the time that I do have with them, because I have seen just within a year how fast they grow up. I am sure that you think that every day when looking at your kids.
I really appreciate your insight. It is nice to hear from someone that has already been through it.